In her second Brideology story, Cara, our Bridal Project Manager, muses on picking a wedding theme and style.
One of the first things I did after getting engaged was grab a stack of bridal magazines and glue myself to the couch for a Sunday afternoon. (Wait, that’s not true; the first thing I did was get a manicure. People actually told me I needed to get one now that I had some ring bling. So I went for grey, inspired by Michelle Obama!)
Tea, candy corn and a bridal magazine on a Sunday afternoon.
Looking at bridal magazines felt like a total indulgence—so much fun. I remember being really excited when my best friend got engaged, because I got to look at magazines with her. I had an excuse! Same goes with working the Nordstrom Weddings team…”Oh, I’m just pinning wedding gowns on Pinterest for work, not myself!” (Wink, wink.)
My favorite parts of the mags are always the trend stories with head-to-toe looks and the “what type of bride are you?” articles. (Coincidentally, these have also been my favorite projects at Nordstrom!) Are you classic, glam, princess or hipster? Beach bride, farm bride or resort bride? Gossip Girl or New Girl? Are you Kate Middleton or Kate Moss?
Are you Beyoncé, Adele or Florence? Well, I wish I was all of them.
What happens if I’m all of them? Do I fail the quiz? Can I retake it? I knew I should have studied more.
I thought that because I work in the retail and wedding industry, I’d know exactly what I wanted when it came time to plan my own wedding. But it’s the opposite; suddenly I like it all! So far I have identified myself as a vintage, fashion-forward, beach, woodsy and New Year’s Eve bride. Uh-oh.
So yes, now I totally feel like the handsome bride-to-be from the Wedding Channel video, ‘S*** Brides Say.’ (If you haven’t seen it, you must watch. It’s hilarious, and so true.) “Urban chic with like a rustic twist!”
“I want to be swallowed in ruffles.”
It’s interesting to think about your “wedding style” as a whole. It’s much more than the dress and accessories, right? Weddings can be quite a production—the wedding theme is in every detail. Especially now with so many resources available and endless inspiration!
I got a little carried away with the theme and started to feel like I was directing a movie: choosing the actors, costumes, script, set, music, lighting…“And the Academy Award for best wedding goes to…” It is strangely similar. I literally heard myself say, “Well, I like woodsy and whimsical, so I’m thinking the theme is Narnia. Or Fern Gully! You know, fairies and magic and stuff!” Whoa, girl.
“Are you a Fern Gully bride?”
The lesson I learned after several conflicting magazine quizzes and getting overwhelmed by themes is that it’s good to take a step back and remember that the true “theme” is love and commitment. It should be an expression of who you are as a couple, and that should play out naturally. It doesn’t have to be a full-on production, unless you want it to!
So maybe I haven’t found my bridal style yet, and we haven’t found our wedding theme yet, but that’s okay! We’ll keep exploring…
Until next time,